I’m taking a sabbatical ; )

 

Here’s the thing – I originally decided to blog this journey after I discovered how many wives out there are in the dark – their men do this behind their backs. But I’m realising, in this form, this piece of writing will probably never reach them, and it’s probably just frustrating the pornseekers. So I’m going to pull back from this for a few months till I figure how to proceed, also because another project has come up demanding urgent attention.

 

I think it’s interesting that the two guys who have responded here seem perfect to discuss with each other and share that way, without me in the middle. So I’m stepping back and suggesting that is what happens next, either here in this space through the comments, or in private – if you both tell me you want each other’s email addy‘s I will supply…

 

Thanks for the love and support shared in other comments – 3hf sorry your ‘confidential’ appeared briefly before being deleted – system automation issue. If you want to discuss anything further with me, feel free to initiate that.

 

As for all the rest:

Bye now everyone, see you down the line.

-x-

any more comments?

leaving the line open for one more week before proceeding…. remember if you want your comment confidential, just say so and I will read but not publish. Thanks to Liam and Jacob for getting the public side of the discussion kicked off.

I will be back next week with a decision…

who are you?

I have been thinking a lot about the T S Elliot quote “Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go”…

This is all a big challenge for me, but I have two choices really. 1) I can bewail it and feel like a victim or 2) I can assume that my husband is meant to be my husband and is helping me adventure into places i would not go on my own initiative, and assume that is something to thank him for.

In the name of intimacy and comittment, both to marriage and to life itself, I choose option number two.

And in the name of intimacy and commitment, before I write any more, I am wondering who you are, readers. I don’t need names or any identifiers, I just want to know why you are here.

My blog stats suggest to me that a lot of the traffic this blog gets is ‘mistaken’ as far as I am concerned: people searching for bdsm porn etc. If that is all, then I would rather make this a private journal. But if there is someone out there genuinely sharing in this who would really like to keep sharing the journey, then that makes it worthwhile to keep writing in this form. So. I’m going to wait for comments before I write more. If you want your comment to remain confidential, just start your comment with the word ‘confidential’ and I will then read and take note of your comment but delete it afterwards, not publish it. Okay?

All for now. Love to all of you, even the porn surfers -x-